Desire is holy, sex is church, and our bodies are built for pleasure and connection. These are the tenets that Kaleigh Trace lives by and which she explores in these memoirs and essays.
Hot, Wet, and Shaking chronicles Trace’s journey from ignorance to bliss, from being a critically uncool teenager to a successful couple’s and sex therapist, all while weaving together themes of feminism, sex positivity, and disability justice. Writing as a queer, disabled, cisgender woman, Trace lays bare the vulnerability inherent in all of our bodies, the healing intimacy that can be found in loving community, and the endless capacity for humour and play that sex can offer us. Trace laughs at her missteps, forgives herself her errors, and reassures the reader that imperfection is perfect.
Moving from the delight of learning how to orgasm to the grief of living with terminal cancer, Trace welcomes you into her world, inviting you to consider the freedom available to us all when we set aside the shaming pressure of expectation. Will this book teach you “how to talk about sex”? Yes, and then some.
Winner of the 2015 Evelyn Richardson Non-fiction AwardRevised and expanded tenth anniversary edition, featuring new essays and an introduction by Christa Couture. This is a sex book. It's a book about fucking yourself, fucking someone you love, fucking strangers. It's about saying words like cunt and come, and all manner of perverse verbiage. Mostly, it's about speaking honestly about our bodies and our vulnerability, recognizing we're all imperfect, worthy, and desirable. In this ten year anniversary edition of Hot, Wet & Shaking, Kaleigh Trace-disabled, queer, sex therapist-chronicles her journey from ignorance to bliss as she shamelessly discusses her sexual exploits and bodily negotiations. Trace's memoirs and essays generously welcome the reader into her world, modelling a humour and radical self acceptance that can teach us all how to talk about sex, and then some.